#no one makes us do anything #honestly i’m so tired of the fandom acting as if cas is the only angel with free will #all of the angels that they’ve shown have exhibited choice #it’s inherent in angels just as it is in humanity #it’s just suppressed because the first angel to make his own choice was lucifer #and the angels saw him exiled #they saw him beaten and bloodied and ostracized #with that for an example who would want free will? (via youdeservetobesaved)
Sometimes people make jokes about white guys on tumblr. Fortunately, white guys can log off of tumblr if it makes them feel bad.
My entire life takes place in a world where institutionalized racism and sexism, which has been going on for centuries, is so endless and pervasive that a black woman can be arrested for credit card fraud because she wanted to buy a purse. (And in case you start thinking this is an isolated incident, no. It’s not.)
Marginalized groups have been the butt of every joke for 400 fucking years all around the globe and unfortunately, I do not have the luxury of logging out of life.
Two weeks ago a man in France was arrested for raping his daughter. She’d gone to her school counselor and then the police, but they needed “hard evidence.” So, she videotaped her next assault. Her father was eventually arrested. His attorney explained, “There was a period when he was unemployed and in the middle of a divorce. He insists that these acts did not stretch back further than three or four months. His daughter says longer. But everyone should be very careful in what they say.” Because, really, even despite her seeking help, her testimony, her bravery in setting up a webcam to film her father raping her, you really can’t believe what the girl says, can you?
Everyone “knows” this. Even children.
Three years ago, in fly-on-the-wall fashion of parent drivers everywhere, I listened while a 14-year-old girl in the back seat of my car described how angry she was that her parents had stopped allowing her to walk home alone just because a girl in her neighborhood “claimed she was raped.” When I asked her if there was any reason to think the girl’s story was not true, she said, “Girls lie about rape all the time.”
She didn’t know the person, she just assumed she was lying.
No one says, “You can’t trust women,” but distrust them we do. College students surveyed revealed that they think up to 50% of their female peers lie when they accuse someone of rape, despite wide-scale evidence and multi-country studies that show the incident of false rape reports to be in the 2%-8% range, pretty much the same as false claims for other crimes. As late as 2003, people jokingly (wink, wink) referred to Philadelphia’s sex crimes unit as “the lying bitch unit.” If an 11-year-old girl told an adult that her father took out a Craigslist ad to find someone to beat and rape her while he watched, as recently actually occurred, what do you think the response would be? Would she need to provide a videotape after the fact?
It goes way beyond sexual assault as well. That’s just the most likely and obvious demonstration of “women are born to lie” myths. Women’s credibility is questioned in the workplace, in courts, by law enforcement, indoctors’ offices, and in our political system. People don’t trust women to be bosses, or pilots, or employees. Pakistan’s controversial Hudood Ordinance still requires a female rape victim to procure four male witnesses to her rape or risk prosecution for adultery. In August, a survey of managers in the United States revealed that they overwhelmingly distrust women who request flextime. It’s notable, of course, that women are trusted to be mothers—the largest pool of undervalued, unpaid, economically crucial labor.
Pop culture and art are just the cherry on the top of the icing on a huge cake. The United States is among the most religious of all countries in the industrialized world. So, while some people wring their hands over hip hop, I’m more worried about how men like Rick Santorum and Ken Cuccinelli explain to their daughters why they can’t be priests. I know that there is hip hop that exceeds the bounds of taste and is sodden with misogyny. But, people seem to think that those manifestations of hatred are outside of the mainstream when, in reality, it’s just more of the same set to great beats. Hip hop has nothing on religious misogyny and its political expression.
An entire political party’s “social policy” agenda is being pursued under a rubric that insists women need “permission slips” and “waiting periods.” The recent shutdown? Conservatives holding the country hostage because they want to add anti-abortion “conscience clause” language to legislation. Whose consciences are we talking about? All the morally incompetent and untrustworthy men who need abortions?
It’s no exaggeration to say that distrust of women is the driving force of the “social issues” agenda of the Republican Party. From food stamps and “legitimate rape,” to violence against women and immigration policy. “We need to target the mother. Call it sexist, but that’s the way nature made it,” explained the man who penned Arizona’s immigration law. “Men don’t drop anchor babies, illegal alien mothers do.” I could do this ad infinitum.
Pretty sure I’m in love with Soraya Chemaly after reading everything she’s written
“I’m more worried about how men like Rick Santorum and Ken Cuccinelli explain to their daughters why they can’t be priests.”
The most hilarious thing? Most religions’ explanations for why women can’t be priests is that women are just inherently more responsible and just don’t “need” the priesthood to guide them. Our culture has this beyond fucked up dichotomy where women are both supposed to be poised and responsible (even for being sexual assaulted) while simultaneously creating laws to restrict their every move. It’s insanity and women just can’t win here.
Jake likes when Dirk laughs because he doesn’t do that very often
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Ongoing on Twitter right now, people are tweeting their negative experiences with doctors and other “authorities” in the medical profession when it comes to transgender issues.
There is a LOT of this.
Everyone should go read up on this because it is a HUGE deal. Trans people seeking treatment do so because they NEED that treatment, and having it denied, or being HUMILIATED and de-humanized while seeking or receiving treatment takes a very large toll on our psyches. The psyches of a group of people with a 50% attempted suicide rate, and who are several orders of magnitude likelier to be killed than the average person. And no, it’s not getting better, because the homicide rate for transgender individuals increased by 20% last year.
Stop the earth I want to get off.
I’m kinda always surprised when cis people are surprised by this stuff. It’s probably rarer to find trans people who don’t have horror stories about medical care, and a couple of the absolute most traumatic experiences I’ve had in my life (and I’ve had plenty) have been at the hands of people who were supposed to be looking after my health.
The first gatekeeper I went to reportedly resigned before being struck off, and only because she fucked up too many cis people who transitioned back. Her successor, Fintan Harte, treats trans people far worse. That man is fucking evil, and if he was in just about any other field, I think he’d be really struggling to stay on the medical register. But, when trans people are concerned, cis people still laud him as a fucking expert on us.
And this is not getting into the creepy, gropey endocrinologist thing, which seems to be so common that it’s almost a grotesque in-joke in some of my trans circles. But again, what can you do?
So this-all begs a question:
Why are those of us who speak up still treated as pariahs by the rest of the “trans community”? Why has pointing out the shitty, sorry state of health care if you’re a trans woman in my specific city gotten me shouted down? Why am i told it must be because i’m ugly, because i’m a man, or because i “just don’t know how to behave?”
Because, let’s face it, i’m not a pretty girl or anything, but the cissies don’t call me a man. In fact, two groups of people call me a man: TERFs and transfundamentalists. That’s all, y’all. Even doctors don’t do it…they at least keep their transphobia professional whilst bumrushing you out and muttering that “someone else deals with that.”
I’m just waiting to find out who that someone else is, since nobody seems to think i deserve to know.
Yes, doctors need to be accountable. Cissexism is still the problem, i’m not moving the goalposts here. But we have to stop being complicit with cissexists by keeping wraps on safer doctors, and shit like this is a fine, fine example. We can’t make our lives better if we’re pathologically divided.
Yes, everything Erica said. Also: this stuff reminds me of the humiliation and degendering I was subjected to, just for trying to exercise my reproductive rights. I just wanted to switch to a different birth control method, it was a routine thing that cis women do all the time. Ugh.